“It’s okay to be a little selfish.”
Not putting yourself first may be causing you a bit of unhappiness and you don’t even realize why. Often we give too much of our time to friends, family or even at work. Is it because we don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings or we just try to help too much. When we don’t save enough time for ourselves we tend to lose out on things that we need to do or want to do. Is our energy being depleted on a regular basis so much so that we feel that we are working for everyone but ourselves? Do we miss out on opportunities or just don’t have the wherewithal to do the things we really want to do. Do you often find yourself making bad choices because you are reluctant to say “no” when someone needs your help? Have you ever been more concerned with someone else’s feelings so much so that you disregard your own feelings? There are times in a relationship that we need to end the relationship; however, we worry more about how ending the relationship will hurt the other person. More importantly, does staying too long in a relationship hurt us or are we just ultimately hurting the other person by not being honest about how we feel.
It’s okay to be a little selfish in order to make sure we are making ourselves happy. We need to balance the time we allocate to help others so that have plenty of time for ourselves. We all need some “me time” to do things that provide refreshment for our minds, bodies, and souls. There are times where peace of mind, no conflict, and just an easy going experience can make all the difference in how we feel. How we feel is very important to our mindset and disposition. We need to protect our feelings by being a little selfish and not putting other’s feelings before our own. Being selfish with our energy can go a long way to prevent us from being emotionally and physically drained from those that tend to be negative. In fact, we need energy to become healthier, more productive, try new things, and take care of our responsibilities.
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So true. When we stop considering our own needs completely, we become tired, irritable, and angry. At least I do. Each of us has an optimal activity level. Some of us need more “me’ time than others. Knowing that helps us stay in a mindset that allows us to be more kind to others and to accomplish more. A small amount of free space on our calendar doesn’t mean we are available when someone phones for an appointment. Penny
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Thank you for your comment Penny, when we become tired, irritable, and angry we are not being the best version of ourselves.
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I totally agree, the putting of oneself first At times is not a selfish thing it is very necessary to your own wellbeing and survival. It allows you to give/serve from a place which is more wholehearted and rich.
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